Lately I've been tossin' and turnin' a particular thought over & over in my head. I've been meaning to speak on it but just didn't know where to begin. Well, no better place to begin something than the beginning. So...here goes. --- Every time I click onto the internet or step outside my house...if I see black women, I see a black woman wearing a weave, extensions or a flat-out wig. EVERYWHERE I go. The grocery store. Park. Drugs store. Nightclub. Church. Everywhere! And every time I see them, I ask myself, "Why?" Why do they want long, straight hair? Or long, curly hair? Or long, blonde, straight hair? Or long, blonde, curly hair? Why? Why is their natural hair covered virtually every time they leave their homes? There are women I've seen at church for damn near a year now, and some I've seen since I moved to L.A. in 2000, and have never seen them without somebody else's hair on their heads. And, truth be told, I think I know why. --- I realize that here in Hollywood and in this nation's fashion capital, New York City, the heavily publicized standard of beauty is set by white men & women. Thus, People Magazine's 50 Most Beautiful lists are always composed of 99.9% Caucasian people. And 99.9% of the films shown in movie theaters and the shows on television are composed of 99.9% Caucasian performers. And the magazine covers are graced by 99.9% Caucasian people. The people who run the television networks and movie studios and publishing companies and record companies and fashion houses are 99.9% Caucasian. I get it: the black women I see wearing weaves, extensions and wigs (excluding those with natural hair loss) have obviously bought into what the 99.9% constantly tell them about beauty. What I know for sure is that I want people to be happy. And I know that true happiness originates from within. So, if this means I have to love my sistahs harder and stronger till they see their phenomenal worth, I'll have to do just that. 'Cause it's painfully apparent to me that far too many of them don't truly believe that God doesn't make mistakes.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Wabash College Radio
Loyola University Maryland
WLOY Radio DJ, Alex Namin
Way back in the early '80s I used to read the news on the Wabash College radio station, WNDY 91.3. I loved that gig. I went on to spin records, too. Back then, radio stations weren't as heavily formatted as they are today. So, I played whatever I wanted to play. As I type, I'm listening to the college radio station of Loyola University in Maryland (WLOY). DJ ALEX NAMIN is spinnin' the tunes! Up till a few moments ago I was texting him real time while he's on the air, but I typed something to him he didn't want his boss to read and told me in no uncertain terms to kick rocks! Haaaa! God bless the youngun! He sounds so mature over the air. I can't believe almost 20 yrs ago I was standing in the hospital with his mom & dad moments after he was BORN!!!!
P.S. I was just reminded that I should've included one of my fave, Fraternity Brothers, JOSEPH BRIAN BEVELHIMER, as an "assistant DJ" with me. I distinctly remember him having me play Meatloaf's "PARADISE BY THE DASHBOARD LIGHT." LOVED that song!!!! It's STILL a classic to my ears!
Being deemed good-looking and charismatic are usually blessings. But, to some, they're CURSES. And to former, up & coming wrestler, Andre Heart aka Gangsta Of Love, good looks, charisma and poor judgement were his undoing! Today he was found guilty on 14 counts of felonious assault for having sex with multiple women without divulging his HIV+ status! Ouch! He didn't appear too terribly phased by the verdicts as they were read, but I'm sure inside, his heart was pounding and he undoubtedly wanted to fall into his mother's bosom and wish she'd make it all go away. God bless the women he slept with. And God bless him, too. --- Read his story HERE.
Monday, November 28, 2011
I just discovered a blog written by a black, female feminist. And boy oh boy does she have a lot to say on a lot of subjects. Her name is Bené Viera. The post I stumbled across was her take on Tyler Perry and what she deems his "issues" with black women. I have listened to far too many folks loudly regurgitate their
Saturday, November 26, 2011
I must have been living under a rock NOT to have jumped aboard the ADELE bandwagon ages ago! I mean, geez, that girl can SINNNNNNG! I stayed up to the wee hours of this morning, surfing YouTube, listening to several of her recordings. I have now added several of them to one of my YouTube playlists: Someone Like You, Hiding My Heart, Don't You Remember, Make You Feel My Love, Crazy For You, Now And Then & Turning Tables. I love her husky timbre. And the power behind her voice! I tell you, if singers aren't able to belt, I'm not usually all that in love with 'em. I like some folks who keep it calm, cool & collected, but my preference is a belter! ADELE, I look forward to hearing future recordings. And I hope you recover miraculously from your recent, throat surgery. What a COLOSSAL TALENT!
Last night one of my dear friends invited me to accompany him to see an independent film, starring someone he knew. All I care to say about it is that I'm happy that the writer/director got his vision produced. And I say that 'cause sooooo many people in this town SAY they're making a film but 99% of those folks NEVER produce a completed project. This guy did. It is my hope that he continues to produce more and more of his work. 'Cause practice makes perfect. And, based upon what I saw, he could only benefit from more practice. God bless him.
Friday, November 25, 2011
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Saturday, November 12, 2011
MICHAEL FASSBENDER as "Brandon"
A few days ago my friend, Stephen, was kind enough to invite me to accompany him to a screening of the new film, SHAME, starring MICHAEL FASSBENDER. I had first heard about this film from my friend, SMERALDA, who sang its praises. Well, now I've seen it. And, boy oh boy, am I happy I did! First and foremost, the film touched me to the core of my soul because I related to the lead character, "Brandon." I, too, have used sex to make me feel powerful. I, too, have spent (and still do spend) many nights home alone because something inside me doesn't allow me to make true, meaningful, romantic connections. And the one time "Brandon" did make such a connection, he couldn't "get it up" if you know what I mean. --- I walked away from the film acknowledging yet again that my life is as unfulfilled as it is because I do and have done NOTHING to change it. The "Brandon" character will have to make some major, life changes to live a more spiritually and personally fulfilled existence. And you know what? So will I! --- When the film hits theaters, I HIGHLY recommend it!
ADEPERO ODUYE as "Alike"
KIM WAYANS as "Audrey"
CHARLES PARNELL as "Arthur"
1. an outcast.
2. any person or animal that is generally despised or avoided.
Last week I was blessed by GOD to see the screening of the new film, PARIAH. It's the story of a black, teenage lesbian and her struggle to live the life she was born to live. I'm tellin' you, the stellar performances of the cast were enough to sing the praises of this film. But I must admit that the story itself was quite phenomenal, too! The lead actress, ADEPERO ODUYE, was simply sensational! I couldn't take my eyes off her. The actor who portrayed her father, CHARLES PARNELL, was also terrific. I particularly enjoyed what KIM WAYANS brought to the table as the mother. I've only seen Kim be funny. So, seeing her suit up with drama was a refreshing change of pace. And I truly felt for her character. As much or more than I did for Adepero's as her tormented daughter. I sincerely hope & pray this film does enough box office to garner more work for/from the writer/director, DEE REES. I enjoyed the film a great deal and look forward to seeing it again!